Play: A Child’s First Language - A Guide to Understanding Your Child Through Play

Children are so naturally expressive, but in terms of having language for their experience to communicate their thoughts and feelings with words - that is a skill we develop later in life. A child’s first expression language is play, and with this they invite us to have a window into their inner experience. By understanding and engaging in play with your child, you can have a deeper understanding of their inner world.

The Language of Play and Understanding with Curiosity

From a very young age, children explore the world around them through the lens of play - this is how the connect, they process and they express. The best way to understand your child at a deeper level is to observe and engage in their world. Parents can learn a lot about their children simply by observing their play - try it! Be curious and observant with your children as they play and notice themes or narratives that may emerge.

If you are looking for a way to strengthen your bond and connection, there’s no better way than getting down on their level and playing together. Let them take the lead and ask them open-ended questions that encourage creativity and thought. It’s important that play is emotionally safe for kiddos, avoid criticism and providing too much direction (this may actually be harder than you think to let yourself play in this way!)

Using Play to Address Concerns

As you play with your child, if you notice any concerning themes or aggression in expression this could be a great way to facilitate playful discussion about how to solve problems and move through their emotions in a more constructive way.

Let’s open up new channels of communication between parents and children and start engaging in play. If you or your child are needing support, please feel free to reach out to deanna@radiantlifecounselingaz.com to learn more about therapy for you or your child today.